I could be biased and say “Celebrant, of course” without batting an eye lid.
But, honestly, I think having a family member or best friend do your ceremony can be a beautiful and sentimental thing. And it can understandably feel more personal than choosing a complete stranger.
Then again, professional celebrants deliver wedding ceremonies for a living, so they might be the safer choice, in terms of quality and experience. And they’re probably more used to thinking on their feet and keeping the show going, when the mic stops working or your little niece starts crying.
Or maybe not. Maybe your cousin’s been doing improv for the past 12 years and could teach us celebrants a few tricks!
In any case, whether you’re swerving more towards a friend or family member, or towards a celebrant, here are a few questions that might help you pick a lane! 🙂
So, starting with your special friend or family member…
Maybe the person you have in mind ticks all of these boxes.
But what if choosing them for such a central role, over your other siblings or cousins or friends, feels awkward? What if the others are thinking “and, what about me?”. How would you handle that?
Would you diplomatically dish out roles to every single person, in the hope no one feels left out? Or maybe it’s a non-issue and everyone knows your sister was the obvious choice.
Only you will know, from how it feels.
And finally, what about hiring a professional celebrant?
Of course, most of the points above apply to your celebrant too. And none of them should be a concern. If they are, then you’ve probably not found the right one!
But what else do you need to think about?
Well, given you don’t know them, you’ll probably start by checking out their Instagram and website to get a first feel. I’m sure you’ll do that, even if they’ve been recommended by your wedding planner or that enthusiastic bride in your Facebook group!
Then, if all looks good, you’ll want to chat to them to get to know them and sense if they’re a good fit, for you. For me, that’s the most important thing.
And the only way to know that is by meeting them. And when you do, here’s a few important questions to consider…
So there you have it. If you’re still undecided, I’d say speak to some celebrants first and shop around until you know you’ve found “the one”.
And if it doesn’t work out, you can still choose that special friend or family member. Just be confident they’re the right person and that they’ll give you the ceremony you deserve.
And just because you choose a celebrant, doesn’t mean your best friend or family member can’t play a special role in your ceremony. There are so many other ways for them to get involved – from readings, to special rituals, to even singing or playing a special song.
I hope you found this article helpful. Please get in touch if you have any other questions or if there’s anything else I can help you with.
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